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Spiritual Abuse must stop

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The Discipleship Disaster
An abusive discipleship is a group that exerts persuasive coercion through systematic deception.
... Specifically the types of coercion and deception found in these discipleships are . . .
- the attitude that we are superior to all other churches, our message is superior as is our understanding of the Bible
- a lack of tolerance for disagreement with leadership
- squelching of freedom of thought when thinking differs from the leadership's
- curtailed freedom of speech when opinions differ from those of the leaders
- hidden agendas as evidenced by deliberate withholding of information
- instilling a belief that disobeying certain requests (which do not deal with Scripture morals or values) from the discipler
is a sin, when it is in fact not sinful.
Once a disciple has been convinced that disobeying a portion of non-moral advice
from the discipler is sinful, the disciple will control himself and of his own volition follow the discipler's suggestions,
in order to avoid guilt feelings. In essence this disciple becomes a slave to the discipler's advice.
Information that the group defines as negative, concerning the leaders, is suppressed by demeaning disciples who speak
out. This humiliation frequently is done by...
- imposing a standard by which disciples are often caused to feel guilty or ashamed. Contrast this to experiencing the grace
of God through support & encouragement ..
- relentlessly judging of members' hearts or motives ..
- threatening to rebuke the "offending" disciple, or even public rebuking ..
- arbitrarily dismissing disciples or causing them to want to leave when the disciple merely disagrees with opinions of
the leaders ..
When a person can't freely share doubts about an important matter without the threat of expulsion
or other negative repercussions, it can cause great inner struggles and leave one emotionally devastated.
Controlling groups usually withhold their additional meanings of obey and submit. These definitions typically
are held back until the leaders see that you trust them enough to assure your acceptance of these new teachings. Controlling
groups lower the disciple's defenses by distorting the highly important concepts of commitment and trust. These
concepts are twisted by abusive discipleship groups to take on new meanings which the Biblical text doesn't allow. There is
one Gospel that can be known by all; leaders don't need to hold some back until newcomers trust enough to swallow all of the
(leaders') belief.
CHAPTER 2 REVIEW MANIPULATIVE GROUPS MIGHT...
- cause you to feel a distancing from family (ask your family if they feel you have cut them off emotionally because you,
yourself, may not be able to see this)
- cause your spontaneous decisions to diminish because you want to check with your discipler first
- cause you to abandon normal old hobbies and friends who are not in the group
- cause you to be stilted in your conversations with family about plans
- diminish the closeness to your family & old friends
- cause you to accept a leader's advice so readily that some perceive you as unduly influenced or controlled
- make you think that you have more accountability then most churches when in reality it is more accountability to reporting
to a man
- cause you to have an unhealthy submission and an un-Biblical obedience to human leaders
- subtly teach that following all of what leaders request is seen as spiritual growth even when you don't feel right about
it
- create unnecessary shame or guilt when your desires don't match the authority
- cause a person to suppress their real personality type or change it
- cause people to lose their personal initiative
- cause burnout problems, serious depression, and a variety of other psychological and spiritual problems after a period
of suppressing their own thoughts and desires to follow what their "mature discipler" thinks is better
- cause you to see yourself as going against God when you have thinking independent from the leaders
- cause you to see leaders as better able to hear from God
- cause you to label yourself as rebellious when you are struggling with accepting their advice
- cause you to see yourself as going against God's will when you don't want to accept their advice as more valid than your
own ideas
- cause you to deny that your discipleship group could be practicing the "shepherdship error" when it may very well be doing
exactly that
- only indoctrinate the leaders and those being groomed for leadership, into the abusive discipleship errors
- allow part of the congregation great freedom but not those whom they are grooming for leadership
- exist within mainline churches
Click here Go To Chapter 3.
These chapters are excerpted from the book, Abusive Discipleship. Everyone who pre-orders a copy
before May 1st. will receive an autographed copy and greatly discounted rates. The publishing deadline is June 1996 although
shipping may be much earlier than this.

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Some good reading material on the issue of Spiritual Abuse.
The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse, Recognising and Escaping Spiritual Manipulation and False
Spiritual Authority Within the Church, by David Johnson & Jeff VanVonderen. Minneapolis, MN: Bethany House Publishers,
1991
Toxic Faith, by Stephen Arterburn & Jack Felton. Nashville, TN: Oliver Nelson, 1991. (Note: This book is
also marketed under the title Faith that Hurts, Faith that Heals.)
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Healing Spiritual Abuse, by Ken Blue. Downers Grove, IL: IVP, 1993
Churches that Abuse, by Ronald Enroth. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervon, 1992
Recovering from Churches that Abuse, by Ronald Enroth. Grand Rapids,MI: Zondervon, 1994
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The Performance Illusion, by Chap Clark. Colorado Springs, CO: Navpress, 1993
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Twisted Scriptures, by Mary Alice Chrnalogar. USA: Lazareth Projects, PO Box 8021; Chattanooga,
TN 37414, 1996
Healing for Damaged Emotions, by David A. Seamands. USA: Victor Books, 1981
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Recovery from Spiritual Abuse, by Dale & Juanita Ryan. Downers Grove, IL: IVP, 1993
Damaged Disciples, by Ron & Vicki Burks. Zondervan, Grand Rapids, Michigan. |
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